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You got a point there. It is only a problem if you recognize it as such and actively seek a solution to resolve it. Well, from the looks of it, there are much more to the issue than just chores. hmm... will speaking to a marriage counselor help? Your son is young, and breaking up a family unit at such a tender age, he may not be able to understand the intricacies of the situation. And it is really sad to see a family unit break up after all the efforts invested, from the time you met to the time you pak-tor all the way till you gave birth. There will be a day where he will realize his folly of his ways. And I hope that day will come soon.

Woah~~~! to contemplate divorce over household chores?!? All the time and effort you invested in this family will go to waste! And you have a kid, what are you going to tell your child? "Ma Ma and Pa Pa cannot get along cos your Pa Pa dun want to do chores! So sorry kid, Ma Ma and Pa Pa can no longer be together." I dunno if there are other issues between the two of you. If there is a problem, there is always a solution. If chores are always the contention, then Maeryn has a really good suggestion. Outsourcing the chores is really a good idea. When I was living with my mum, we used to do that during the new year spring cleaning period to ease the cleaning workload. There are those weekend maids that does the cleaning at a fee. They will mop, wash and iron for you for a small fee. If I remember correctly, the charges are hourly rated. Some are tasks rated(fixed charges for each chore). The flyers are always around, in letter boxes and stuffed at the door. If you cannot find any, let me know. I will save some for you from my letterbox. In a marriage, it is all about compromises, collaborations and cooperation between you and your spouse. A lot of time and effort is needed to build a relationship to the point of making the decision to get married and live together! There must be something you have seen in your spouse to make you wanna bear his child. So why let chores get in the way? Since both of you are working, getting a weekend maid will definitely solve some of the stress the both of you are feeling. If you think hiring a weekend maid every week is taxing, you can always reduce the number of times they come to do the cleaning. For a few hundred dollars a month, you can engage the part-time maid twice a month to do the heavier duty chores like ironing, washing of toilets and windows... etc. The chinese has a saying, "Yi Ri Fu Qi, Bai Ri En" (loosely translated --> One day of marriage is equalivant to a hundred days of blessings!) There is a reason why the both of you got together. Don't lose sight of it. Sit your spouse down and talk things over. Once you feel that there is a quarrel about to erupt, postpone the session. Try again when the both of you are in better moods. If need be, get a neutral friend to sit in to mediate. I really hope you can work things out with your spouse. It will be sad to see a relationship turn sour due to chores and chores alone when there are many alternatives to get the chores done. For every problem, there is a solution. It is whether we are looking hard enough to find it or not ~ ahgong

wahh... those are nice! I am hoping to get a pair of bikes for me and my wife as well. Now is the part where I have to convince her to get the bike as well... heh heh

Hmm... dun put all singapore men to the same judgment just because your husband is like that. It is not fair! Just like men cannot put the same judgment on all women cos they feel their wife is not doing enough for the home. In order for a family to work, both the husband and the wife must work hand in hand together! There are always solutions to problems. One must sit down and work at them. Striking does no one any good. I am a man who is lucky to have a wife who is willing to share the chores with me. I personally feel that men sometimes need a good rapping on the head to realize that their wife is doing more than the fair share of work. Sit your husbands down. Share your unhappiness over the unfair share of workload in the home with them. Then tell them that it would really be helpful if they could help out more often as you are as tired as they are when you come back home from work. Don't put the blame on anyone or anything. You, as his wife, is telling him that you are feeling the strain of balancing work and home life and needs a helping hand. I am sure he will understand. I am always amazed by the patience of women, and this is where patience will come into play. He will help, mabbe for a week or two. Then repeat the whole process again. Men are sometimes not able to register something immediately. So keep reminding him every once in a while. With time, when he notices that you can pay more attention to him cos you are not as tired out as you would be without his help, he will appreciate the attention he is getting from you and he will just naturally do it without you telling him to. Work out a list of chores and delicate them to each other. If cooking is really a chore, doing only during the week ends or once in a while. Eat out or seek for quick cook recipes that you can use to resolve the cooking problem. Msg me if you need to, I have a few quick to cook recipes which I can share with you. What me and my wife does, we delicate the house chores. I do more of the tougher ones like mopping and washing of the toilets and she does the more complicated ones like the laundry. I usually do my ironing when watching TV in the evenings. Sometimes I do it, sometimes my wife does it. If it is still an issue, then do like what some people are doing.... Only iron the one you want to wear in the morning instead of doing the whole load at one go. His clothes he iron, her clothes she iron. That way, no one can complaint. Hope it helps!

ha ha ha... this thread has survived many renovations! In fact, it is the longest thread alive in Renotalk!

ha ha... it is good to be back say, I just noticed... come this friday you would have been with renotalk for one full year liow! heh heh heh celebrating or not?

wah... long time no chance to log into this forum... feels good to be back!

Subsidary of HaFary... Defu lane 10... look for Ian

well, like what zirhk3355 suggested, you can go to balestier and visit the few tile suppliers there to see the type of tiles offered. Also, since your contractor has a supplier, out of courtesy, go look at what he has to offer. For all you know, he may have tiles that you like. In the event you don't like the tiles selection provided by your contractor's supplier, you can justify to him that you don't like the selection and bring him to the supplier where you like the tiles. Get him to get direct from the supplier of your choice, don't get the tiles yourself. This is in case there are disputes about the tile quality on delivery, your contractor will be the one that has to liase with the supplier, not you. you can also check out my blog for some simple guideline on floors... Floors...how to decide...

then y bang wall?

what happened?

dun have local ones to share... All my priniting and cards are bought from m'sia. Other contacts like photo and video... got a shortlist... if you are interested, can pass them to you as well.

got it! thanks

september. Still got breathing space.... heh heh nope, cannot remember the shop name of mine. Yours is in JB is it? Thanks for the links... i got it liow Tried to reply to some of your PMs, but your inbox is full.

good good... photographer and videographer contacts would be good. My printing is covered liow. Found a good one in m'sia. Where did you go for your prints? I know... heh heh... just griping lah... old man you know lah, lots of gripes

BUSY! every weekend is busy shopping for something for the wedding then there is the AD photography need to look at then there is the videography then there is the location then there is the logistics in m'sia then there is the card design then there is the invites printing to think about then there is the makeup for AD to search for then there is the accessories for the bride then there is the men's shoes then there is the ladies shoes then there is house work cos whole weekend not at home... then there is... then there is... then there is... then there is... then there is... then there is... then there is... then there is... then there is... it never ends!!

start of a new week... a short week to be exact! woo~Hoo~~~! How the preparation for your trip Odie?

actually that is not really true. The other states also has their fair share of the crime stats... just that it is not as often reported here in the local papers. Even Singapore has its share of crime... we are locals, we are more aware of the surroundings we are in, so we don't feel it as much as when we are overseas. Go read the M'sia papers, they also report their fair share of crimes that happen in singapore as well

it is not that bad... just that you are in a foreign land, you are not familiar... so taking extra precautions is better. Same question, would you walk into the Geylang red light district alone?

aiyah... there are many ways to avoid looking like a Singaporean when you are there bring waist pouch... that is what many locals are doing cos of the high occurrence of motorbike snatch thieves. If you dun need all those stuff in your backpack, go without! It is **** obvious when you see someone with a big back pack, stuffed with god-know-what. If you must have water all the time, buy! If you need that umbrella, get from Giodarno or something... you dun need that fanciful walkman or MP3 player when going across the cause way! Normal T-shirt and Jeans are good enuff. Best of you are wearing those cargo pants... lots of pockets to keep your stuff! Learn a few malay phases that are useful... like "How much?" "where to go to get?" "where is the toilet?" "Sorry, I am not interested" when talking to malay stall holders or when changing money. Always walk where there are plenty of people, avoid quiet back streets. Always shop together with your spouse, no matter how boring the department is, if one is interested to go, the other WILL follow! The other thing you need to do? be aware of your surroundings... before any robbery or snatching occurs, the perpetrator will always observe you before making a move. By taking a few precautions, a weekend trip to JB is just as enjoyable as any weekend in town in Singapore.

I bought my sofa from JB and it has been good. The service is great as well. you can also check out taman sentosa... there is a shop call Rozel there that has a very good range of sofas. They have a branch in Jusco. Tun Aminah also have quite a few shops scattered all around. What kind of furniture are you looking for? What is your budget?

it is true... if you have a car, then it is worth it... else taking cab and the traveling time involved into consideration... it is about the same. Unless of course you are craving for some good food, I know of a few places that will make the trip in for a movie worth while! and yes, the movie ticket prices you quoted is correct!

go where? go where?

hmm... last nite go where? why so lethargic?

really? teach leh