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Thank you very much lonerwithaboner. Very very clear and good advice. Talking about law firms that specialize in family law cases, may I trouble you to share please? Yes, I know that there are many in the marketplace.. but the family is looking at "Sure-Win". Do note that the family does not expect or want anything from the husband/father but just wants him to leave them peacefully and not take away anything (house and children's savings) from them. Thank you lonerwithaboner.

Haha.. Religion also can't help him He always go to the sacred ground act so holy pray so holy, treat others nice but when there's nobody around, he's full of HOLES aka SATAN. Anyway, everyday see the wife and children so miserable... is it possible that Singapore Legal Aid lawyers take up this case? From my understanding, the wife and children just want him to leave safely and in one proper piece (no death and no blood shed).

Dear chronograph, Thank you for your reply. 1) No, the husband is not the owner of the house. He has no ownership and no name to the house. He has no Singapore CPF also. He is only an occupant. The wife is the sole owner of the house and the only one making payment to the home loan thru CPF. Meaning to say, in all legal papers pertaining to the house, only the wife's name is in it. 2) The children is of sensible age and old enough. Girl is 19, boy is 22. The wife is not so worried about the husband going to their schools to make trouble... the wife is more worried about the husband tracking them at their new home (in the event, should the wife and children move out elsewhere) and make + cause trouble. 4) The husband is not one of the owner, he is just an occupant who does not earn enough to service the house loan, only the wife is servicing the house loan through CPF. The main concern is: As the couple has a marriage certificate in Malaysia but not in Singapore (because in Singapore, not allowed because the husband is Malaysian and once held work permit in Singapore), will just because there is a marriage certificate, the house must half go to him? 5) Yes, both children born in Singapore. Question: How to get rid of him legally? Now, he is jobless because no company wants him and he still thinks he is the "king of the house". Held: The wife and children never despised that he is not rich, not contributing enough.. its the husband's domineering, possesive, violent, petty and MCP ways which cause alot of misery to them. Whenever he is not happy with the slightest things, he just slam door, bang things, smash plates, spit on the table, shout and hurl vulgarities etc. The husband is not working yet don't even offer to help out with house chores, hog TV all day long (wife and children don't get to watch TV at all lor), expect food to be ready and served and etc. But he is so free now!! As such, the wife and children conclude that he is a parasite instead of a help. Headache right?

The Case: 24 years ago, a couple got married in Johor Bahru – got Malaysian Marriage Certificate only. Female being a Singaporean, Male being a Malaysian who once held work permit in Singapore. Male cannot married in Singapore because ever held work permit before in Singapore and PR got rejected. They now have 2 Singapore Citizen children, one girl age 19 and one boy age 22. The mother of the 2 children is the breadwinner of the family with higher and consistent salary. This family resides in Singapore. But the wife and both children have been living in utter misery and sadness because ... The father has a violent, possessive and petty temperament and often suggest to fight physically. Whenever there is a dispute or disagreement, he slams and smashes things in the house and almost physically beat up the wife (he can’t because the children is big (age and size) enough to protect the mother). Last year September 2009, the father was officially diagnosed with Stage 3 Nose Cancer. Despite the fact that the husband’s monthly contribution has been barely sufficient for the family and inconsistent (because he works only 6 to 8 months in a year), the wife all along having to bear responsibility and burden of the home loan and all children related expenses solely on her own insisted that he should seek immediate medical attention. He underwent chemotherapy and radiotherapy at Mount Elizabeth Hospital. Why Mount Elizabeth? Because he is not local, does not have CPF. At Mount Elizabeth, treatment is immediate and he needs not travel to and fro Singapore – Johor Bahru. Having completed all treatments successfully, the doctors certified that he is now coping very well and is close to the pink of health. The wife spent around $70,000+/- on his treatments. The family strongly felt and thought that after this ordeal in his life, his character and behaviour would change for the better... but they were disappointedly proved wrong. His character and behaviour got worse. The wife and both children can no longer tolerate his nonsense. Questions: 1) Can divorce? The husband surely will not agree and will turn physical and attack every family member. What can be done to get rid off him? 2) How to ensure that he does not harass the wife and children after the divorce? (The wife and children do not want to see him.) 3) What will happen to all assets?? (not much but the wife bought insurance policies for both children using her AWS and her own CPF, some savings (not much less than $7k each) which the wife has been saving up for the children since young for education and rainy days) 4) What will happen to the one and only property which the family is now living in (considering the fact that right from the start the wife has been the only one paying for the house loan through her CPF and servicing the bank loan)? 5) Will the Singapore Citizenship of both children be affected? 6) Any other implications? Thank you so much for taking time out to read this lengthy post... can any kind samitarian/soul please advice on this matter as it will certainly salvage and bring new hope to the lives of this unfortunate family.