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after we installed the camera , everything was fine but we caught some suspicious character with hats and 'equipments' on the camera , they didnt do anything but just walked pass our hse . and just only , i spotted a guy wearing mask on my camera , so i phoned the police and they came and search but to no avail. then my neighbour came and tell me 2 units kenna splashed zzzz i feel so demoralised and embarassed at that time and im the only one awake and dont wish to wake up my parents....

my aunts are all christ and they bought him to church and everything but none could help him because he himself dont wanna go.i would really hope he will stop avoiding the problem and face it like a man now that he's 21 he ought to know and think about his future. thanks so much for the advices really appreciate it alot!

if u dont know anything i will suggest u can leave this thread.

all she did was to nag and scold and shout and scream at home but didnt bother to help solve the problems. i edited den , sorry.

we tried asking him what he want, why he do that , but he didnt say anything and just keep quiet. even when my grand told him what happened earlier on this morning he just keep quiet and went to sleep. you are right bluefly , showing anger and scolding him will only make things worse but my mum did that everyday , non stop nagging and scolding over this matter to me and my poor sister.. this is one of the reason why my bro move to grand hse. i tried calling and msging him and even willing to accompany him to those counselors but he didnt replied ... i've contacted a counselor myself hoping that my bro will agree to the treatment this time round.

it just happened , this morning around 1220 , i smelled paint and i went out to take a look and saw some streaks of black paint... but i didnt saw anyone walked pass my hse so i phoned the police and they came to ask some questions take picture.. sigh this thing is making my whole family crazy .. thanks for the suggestions i will let my dad know.

i suggested my dad about the CCTV already and he said he will get it done asap. my hse is a corner unit , dont know whether is it good or bad

its not the 1st time the loan shark had been harassing my family already. it was my brother,he's only 20 this year, started betting on online soccer bets website etc etc at first , he won a little , which got him really into gambling afterwards. then , when he started losing , he borrowed money from poly friends, gaming friends, relatives and whoever he could thought of to pay his debt off from the soccer bets website. of course he went to my parents b4 them. expected , my parents gave him a harsh warning , cane him etc etc back then he was only 18. once , he owe loan shark about 30k++ and he stole my mum's jewellery and rolex watch from my dad and bottles and bottles of wine to turn into cash in return to the loan shark. that makes my parents totally give up on him and my dad even fainted when he found out about this. nevertheless, when we thought everything was over, he did it again... over the past 2 years , he didnt change but he got bolder and bet even more like 1k 2k 5k on a single match , and when he lose , he go to my dad thinking that my dad is his ATM when my dad only holds a job that pays him 2k a month. counselling was done but he just wont change!!!! and just last week , he move to my grand's hse to live because he dont wanna stay at home anymore. thinking that all was alright , a phone call called our hse again to look for my brother and threaten to set fire on our hse if we failed to pay up tonight.. dad called home and said brother owe $35k again along with 20 sets of loan shark.... dad was firm not to pay anymore because he really do not have the $$ already and if we paid now and my bro borrow again , the cycle just repeats itself... dad was so helpless and keep asking me what should we do next? why did our family end up like this? but i couldn't answer his question ... all we did was to report to the police and cover plastic sheet on our main door.. im really very helpless now, facing the main door open to do a lookout while doing my project work late every night till 3 or 4 am ... but how long can this last??