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My story.... Even since I can remember, my mom has always taken either my sis or bro side in almost everything, that I have become used to it. I even once told my classmates that I was adopted. ( I was in pri sch then ) My mom found out about it and I got a good trashing but never ask me why I said such things. Ever since then, I was never close to my family. And I am a middle child. Today, I had a huge fall out with my mom. You see, my younger bro has a habit of stealing. he has no qualms about stealing even from his own siblings .But I've always thought he'll grow out of it when he gets older and more mature.Now at the age of 25, he's still doing it. Many times he'll drop by my house and sleep over and only to find money / items missing the next day. Whenever I question him, he'll just blatently deny it even tho is obvious that he took it as there's no one else in the house.Even then I just let it go . Even my husband's playstation 2 was stolen ! Imagine my embaressment. A week ago $100 was missing from my cash box which was locked. My bro was there last night.When I was leaving for work the next day, he said he'll leave in the afternoon to go to work. I reluctantly left the house. but forgot to lock my MBR. True enuf, when I get back and checked the cash box, the key looks twisted and the money was missing.$100 might not be a big sum to others , but when you accumulate the amt of money that was stolen over time , it's just frustrating. I sms him to ask if did he take the cash, and if yes, to return it to me. he didn't bother to reply, that to me is a submission of guilt. I then told him that I want the cash back in 1 week time , then he msg me and said he'll transfer the cash in my acct. So , that means he did steal my money right ?!?! If not why wld he wanna give it back ? I told my sis about it and to collect the cash on my behalf and I got the money 3 days ago. Then today, my mom called and asked me to come over during my lunch break . I asked her why and she just told me to come. I came over, my bro was sleeping on the couch, my mom woke my sis up. I was rather confuse at that time & wonder what was going on. Then my mom started scolding me and accuse me of falsely accusing my bro of theft.Why ? bcoz I have a friend staying at my hse temperory while he's looking for another place. hence, my mom was angry at why my bro was accused but not my friend.Accusing me of favouring friends over my own family members. I calmly told my mom, when I asked my bro about the missing money, he didn't even bother to try to defend himself and by saying he'll transfer the money means that he did steal the money. I didn't threathen , beat , shout or whatever to make him confess. My bro at that time was "sleeping" beside me. I asked my mom, he's here, ask him. My mom then said that I was a 'disgrace" becoz I can't even give & take between siblings. I explain to my mom that, this is not the 1st time he's stolen from me but many times but I'm just too fed up to bring the subject up coz I know he'll deny it ,so whats the point.But this time I just can't take it anymore.I told my mom that Im asking for my money back to teach him the consequenses and hopefully learn from it.My mom then started ranking up the past that I used to steal from her. Although I do admit during my adolescent years as a teen, I was very rebellious and was the black sheep in my entire family, I have always admited my mistakes and try to make amends to my mom. Ever since then, whatever my bro did, it comes back to me, blaming me for whatever trouble my bro got into and I've taken the blame & hurt to this very day. My mom then said if I don't trust my bro , then she'll tell him not to come over to my place anymore, And I told her maybe that is for the best. My mom then went mental on me and accuse me of forsaking my own bro. Saying what if she's dead , and what will happen to my bro if his own sister won't help him. I told my mom, he's not retarded, stupid , handicapp or mentally challenge , why shd I support him ? If we keep on helping and supporting him, he'll never learn to be an independant & responsible adult. But what ever I said have always fallen to deaf ears. My sister butted in and said that she also help give my bro money althought she doesnt work( she was crying, why I don't know). I was like ehh..so what ? Its ur choice wheather to give him money or not. If you do that , then good for you then. Why are you telling me ? To get reconition for you genorisity ?I told off my sister that when you offer something to other pple you don't boast about it to get reconition. Thats just not sincere to me. After this incident, I left the house feeling really dejected . I was trying to help my bro be responsible and yet I was accused to letting my family down. There are many other incidents which happen during my life time which my family has let me down time and again. And I have learn to be patient and grow to be a stronger person. I've always thought that becoz I've cause my mom so much heartach when I was a teen, this is the karma I get. People and friends who have known me over the years have always known me to be the outspoken and very opinionated person. But nobody knows that when It comes to family, I just keep my mouth shut till today, even then, I just say what is nessasary and not say what I really wanna say, becoz In my heart, they are still my family good or bad.

Thks to all you guys for your support & advice ! !! I guess, all married couples should learn the art of battle as they should learn the art of making love. Good battle is objective and honest - never vicious or cruel. Good battle is healthy and constructive, and brings to a marriage the principle of equal partnership. A great marriage is not when the 'perfect couple' comes together. It is when an imperfect couple learns to enjoy their differences. !!

Lucky you ! Can swap husbands ?

I'm a working mom who's I've been married for 6 years now. For 6 years I've been managing almost everything. I come back home, pick up my 5 yrs ol son from child care. Then I feed him dinner, revise him on his school work , wash, fold & keep the laundry , vacume & mop house plus other misc stuff. Try and put my hyper son to sleep, which could take hrs then I can finally rest, which by then it's almost midnight My hubby does help ard the hse plus he's in charge of cleaning the toilet every week. But usually, he's comes back home, either plays the X box, computer or meddle with his stoopid new hp. I understand that he's tired and thats he's way of relaxing after a hard days work. But I'm working too ! And my hubby's rather complicated, he's a very clean BUT messy person ! His cupboard look like a rubbish bin. Sometimes I dunno why I bother folding his shirts. I confronted him 3 nights ago and told him to take the initiative to help out when I'm occupied with something else, he said he don't understand why I'm complaining coz it's not a difficult thing to do. I was SO PISSED I then told him, if's its so easy, then prove me wrong. From that night onwards, he'll have to clean up after himself, manage his own laundry, wash his own dishes, prepare his own food and see if its easy and not exhausting. It's been 2 days now and his doing everything himself. That will teach him. And I don't plan to stop my strike

hee hee... Wear rubber gloves so you won't get electrocuted ! Better to be safe then sorry !! As for me, my hubby's a technical officer, he re-wired the whole hse himself. I just stand and watch

Yup, They're all certified by PSB As for material, I think its PLASTIC RESIN. And It's semi-matt finish. They have switces in stainless steel as well Not too sure about the cost tho !

My husband got these light switches at kelantan lane. I've always thought these switches are expensive, like ard $15 each. So was rather surprised that they are actually really cheap ! Address is Joo Hong Electrical trading Co. Blk 29, kelantan Rd,#01-113 Tel : 62972115

Hmm...I don't think I have time to volunteer for more then 1 school And it's not even guranteed my son will get a place I think it all comes down to pure luck I guess. Thks for the info !

Hi.. I was from CHIJ and then I moved on to Katong Convent .I can ensure you that English language is a top priority in my school. I'm not too sure if the same faculty still exist now , but during my years there, the teachers were very strict ! But they were very passionate about teaching unlike teachers nowadays. I do know some of my old teachers are still teaching there coz I do visit my school now & then. I live in Tampines and I'm hopeing to get my son in St Hilda's. I manage to speak to the dept head regarding doing volunteer work but was told that still does not guarantee that my son could get a place. She told me of a DOC who volunteers his time for 2 years and his kid was not even sellected. Now I'm contemplating weather I shd volunteer or not But I have a question : My son will be enrolled in pri school in 2009, Can I register more then 1 school ? so that if he's selected in more then 1 , I can choose which school is best !

Hi peeps... I wish to buy a sliding door wardrobe from Brighton. Has anyone purchased any from them ? Is it any good ? Coz it's very affordable , I wonder if it's too good to be true ! Any info and feedback wld be greatly appreciated

Near the toilet ...the shop is facing the back of an ATM machine. The shop is located beside the side entrance

I'm not too sure coz I lost the name card. But the shop is really easy to find. Its just beside Shop & save. They sell cusions covers , blinds , curtains that kinda stuff. the stuff are friendly too.

Hi ilys, I got my string curtains at Tanjong katong complex in Geylang. The shop is located at the 1st level, just beside Shop&Save. My curtain is 1 x 2 meter long =$39. If you need longer ones,it'll cost abit more. I know some shops are selling it at ard $100+, maybe the quality is better, But they feel & look the same ! So what the heck !

No problem.Hope it helps. Good luck

Alo.. My TV feature wall is also black hi gloss laminate. Although there is no joint line, my ID suggested putting stainless steel line to give it a more defined look so it doesn't look like just a black wall. Perhaps you can ask ur ID to add the stainless steel line to hide the joint lines , theres less work and fuss as well. There's a look at my TV Feature wall.