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I had a friend who is now on separation with her husband, who is in IT. Reason being that her husband is boring, not romantic enough and everything also cannot decide, always ask my friend to decide. To me, he is really a 'biao-zhun' husband; works 9 to 6, does not smoke/drink/club, man of few words, very routine, no surprises, not cheeky (eg dirty jokes, stupid/funny actions, etc), respectful, etc. But haiz, in a way I must admit that this could be abit boring lor. Then again, sometimes really hard to please women leh - want decent man, but yet must be happening, romantic. Maybe someone should tell them that one can't have the cake and eat it too.

Hey that's a great find! How did you find this auction, or are you also looking for these as well? However not exactly what I wanted because these are still plastic beads coated with chrome finish, which does not give out the sparkle and 'rainbow' reflection as glass/crystal would. Think this auction seller is specialised in this, think I will email him to ask if he got glass/crystal ones. Thanks again!

I think those lightweight safes do have holes at the bottom or behind for you to drill and affix them onto the floors/shelves, right? It would be quite an oxymoron to leave a 30kg safe lying around unsecured, akin to putting up a banner in your house: "Break-in and carry! All valuables in one convenient package! No hassle, no searching required".

Oh its a curtain shop...hmmz, not sure if ex or not?? But I will still check it out...really appreciate...

Thanks for the great help!

Haha, but the statistics did not show if the parents of these young people are happy with their kids staying home?? I mean not that a parent would complain in context of having your kids continuing being by your side, but more in view of having to PAY for more than what you had planned for. Well I can see what you meant; but erm, surely your mum is getting worried for your youngest brother, that is if he is coming of marriable age? I used to worry that my parents would be bored when I move out, and that my youngest sister (who is 13 yrs my junior) can accompany them. However, my worries were unfound: My parents are really getting on with their lives, organising karaoke sessions, movies, overseas tours, etc on their own, and I believe they are subtly hinting to my youngest sister that she should be moving on soon! In order to be truly independent, I also believe that I must learn to lead my own life rather than hoping for my kids to stay by my side for as long as possible.

Oh, I think our layout is different - mine is 5-rm. Anyway, sure can share, why not? But unlike you, my grouse was the lack of space for a WIW, not with the size of my toilet. If you see the layout in my blog, I wanted to hack the other side of my MBR's toilet, so that I can build a WIW at the future study area of my living room. However, I had decided expand my MBR into the living area by shifting the MBR's door forward (towards the windows) and build the WIW in that area instead. Erm, not sure if you understand my poor explanation, but in a nutshell, my living/dining becomes smaller while my MBR becomes bigger lor. Well my toilet remains the same small size lah, but since we cannot hack, cannot change tiles, etc, I rather just leave it and wait for 3 yrs to do it altogether. I am not even keen to overlaying the tiles, because I had heard too much problems about it.

Wow I am really rooting for your idealogy and life-thoughts, but I guess its quite hard to impose all these in this young forum. My views are like this: Just like the way modern couples live together as two individual, self-substaining persons, I felt that besides family love, we should treat them as such too. I am not all for a westernised view, but I do concur with the western culture that if a kid had started to work and earning a reasonable income but still continue to stay with the parents, it is considered leeching. And there was this controversial statement made by a kid sometime ago which shocked our older generation: It is the parents' job to take care of me because they had brought me into the world. But as to whether I will take care of them in future, that is my prerogative, and dependent on how they had treated me. To a certain extent, I do agree with this school of thought, or putting it in a nicer way: It should be an act of love to care for one's old parents, rather than an act of duty. Perhaps because I came from an average joe family and being an average joe myself, I am already feeling the heat as the sole male offspring of my parents. See the vicious cycle here: You take care of your parents and then take care of your kids; unless you are well-to-do, its quite difficult to expect to take care of yourself when old. Thus when the time comes, you will expect your kids to take care of you, and the cycle goes on. In the past, this is insignificant because families were big with at least 5 to even 10+ offsprings. Nursing home bills of $1000+? No problem, each kid only got to pay $100 - of course I can safely say that I will do my part as a filial child! But look at what we are now, and the rising costs of living - as the cycle goes on, it will become more and more miserable down your family line. And it doesn't help when the society chide you for being unfilial if you even dare try to give yourself and/or your children a better life than your parents. So everyone suffers in silence. (Insurance agents always have a ball trying to scare you to think about all these, how many millions you will need for you and your family to survive. Baaa...!) And the worst situation that is always prominent in an Asian family: What happens if the parent or child dies prematurely? The cycle is broken, everyone suffers and everything is affected. So I am quite determined to break free from the perception that its the children's duty to take care of their parents. For me, each member of the family will live as separate individuals, but love as one united. Of course, that can only start from my wife and myself, as its not fair to tell my parents at this point that I am not going to pay for their needs.

Hey, anyone got any ideas how to say 'hi' to our new neighbours? I found that the unit beside mine had already moved in, think even saw that they had a housewarming the other day liao. Old couple, so when my reno starts, not sure if will affect them or not. Just want to say hi, but paiseh leh. If buy things to give them, will I seem like overdoing it? Any ideas would be appreciated...hehe...

Well to be fair, masters who always blend FS with Buddhism had already done it subconsciously. Most masters are Chinese by race and most of them are Buddhist, and in the past, most of their followers/disciples are also Chinese and Buddhists. So by convenience or by default, they are already accustomed to blending Buddhism with FS lor...

Why not ask HDB who was the contractor that did the electrical board plastic cover? Govt sectors usually archive things for a long time, I am sure they still have record of who the contractor was.

Fengshui is actually booming in angmoh places like Australia, New Zealand and especially US of the A. Think that should answer your question if FS is for Christians. People often associate FS with Buddhism/Taoism simply because it was derives by Chinese and FS can blend well with some Buddhist/Taoist practice when there is a need for a fusion of the two, eg a FS master can advise you where to place the altar, when to pray, etc. However, if you ask any FS master how to fusion FS with the Quran or Hindi statues, I think they will be stuck!

There's a shop in Thomson Plaza second level that specialise in country-style kitchens; looking at their design for the shop, I think they are good. The shop really look like a cozy English cottage. Why not try to ask him if they also do for the rest of the unit, or maybe they have connections with IDs who do? Erm sorry I do not have the name, but they are near KFC.

Hey that's what I wanted to do also - ironically could your floorplan be the same as mine? However I managed to find an alternative to hacking, so in the end I didn't hack lor. Since you really want to hack, why not just go for it and apply for approval? You never know whether can or cannot lor, all these hearsays and rumours are not accurate one lor, because HDB always assess on case-by-case basis. Also cannot base on precedent cases, because HDB changes their rules as frequently as you change your underwear. Just apply for it - no harm! Good luck...

Ya, according to my ID, if this week cannot hack then I have to delay for two weeks, cuz need to get the HDB guy, town council guy, etc all come together to see the hacking process. Mid-July is a conservative date lah, I expect it about end Jun'07 lor... Ok, no problem. I will try to find lor..

Hehe, are we starting to gossip? Can I add in as well? I was from the shipping industry, which till-date I believe to be the most scandalous industry. Anyone remember sometime ago a man and his mistress was found dead in a car, at a MSCP at chua chu kang? They are from the shipping industry. What about the article on a woman coming up to the office and starting screaming and hitting a female sales executive, claiming that she seduced her husband? That's shipping line also (That's my office!). And years ago, a mother actually sought the help of Lianhe WanBao to find her daughter, who is married but had ran off with another guy in her office. Their photos are published big big on the papers. Yes, you guessed it, from shipping industry! And I can go on and on...last but not least, has anyone hear of the CLIENT driving over to the vendor's office, pick up the sales, go to Client's office to do sales, and then send the sales back to the vendor's office? I already sick of hearing such things - and that's shipping industry!

My advice is if you are not in a hurry to look for a job, don't go reduce your asking salary. Once your salary had been determined, its very hard to have the employer increase it. And the probable thing is that you will feel underpaid and overworked, very stressed up and maybe resigned within a short time.

Sighz...if only wifey and me can do that. Meeting each other during weekdays is almost very infrequent, as we had learnt to lead independent lives. However, weekends is always shared with each other, whatever the occasion may be. Thus, now also having a bit of struggle as my 'third wife' is becoming more possessive...golfing! That usually takes up half of a saturday and vainpot wifey can't stand the sun so she will never go with me... What Linda said above is correct - there is always a trade-off. The grass is always greener on the other side lor; cannot compare. Most important is what you want; if you feel that lesser working hours is important, make sure you can also tahan the lesser efficiency of the country, higher taxation, more crimes, etc. And as always, wherever you go, racism is always present, especially for us Asians. The so-called most 'democratic' country, US of the A, had also co-incidentally the highest number of racist incidents reported per capita.

Not quite started yet - supposed to start hacking this week but stopped by my FS master. Probable date of completion is about mid-July'07. What kind of style you want for your home? Me also half-past-six one lah, looking around at shopping centres, restaurants, boutiques, etc, copying ideas here and there.

No no, these photos were grabbed from an event by Lush 99.5fm. If you right-click the pics you can see the source of the photos. That guy is one of the DJ in Lush 995, I think. The girl is just some model or maybe sales/marketing executive ba... Do you have the shop name? Thanks...

Learning fengshui would be a good option, won't it?

Your logic is quite skewed. Let's say you walk along the pathway carrying your laptop, rain comes along and damages your laptop. Is it God's responsibility? Or is it LTA or Nparks' responsibility because they never build shelter on the pathway? Or is it YOUR OWN responsibility because you never carry an umbrella?? Think about it... While sometimes HDB and some MCST do make stupid regulations, but by not explaining yourself also does not make you any smarter. And coincidentally, I concur with HDB for this particular regulation. Speaking strictly between two units, the waterproof membrane provided by HDB is for the benefit of the lower level unit, actually. The upper level unit does not benefit at all from this waterproofing on their floor, although they are supposed to maintain it as it is part of public amenities. Thus the regulation that wear and tear costs should be shared by both parties is fair. In fact, if only one party is responsible, it should be the lower unit's own responsibility to repair wear and tear items that will affect themselves, UNLESS the upper unit had done some works to damage/destroy the waterproof membrane.

Speaking from a man's POV, I would think its really unfair that one does not trust one's husband just because she is hearing 'things' happening to her friends and whatever 'statistics' to show that such matters is on the rise. Is the husband still coming home to sleep? Is the husband still giving money to the family, still caring for the family and still giving everyone a good life? If someone in the family is sick, does he come rushing back? And if all that are true and the wife still distrust him, how do you think the husband will feel? Always remember that you married your husband, not those cheating husbands that you seen, and since you married him you must trust him fully. In the end if he does cheat on you, you can at least pat yourself on your back and say that you had done your best and it is his loss. But if you did not trust your husband 100%, always calling him, make him give you 'situation report' every 3 hrs, restrict him from going out, etc - one day he so stressed up and go outside to have an affair, can you cannot touch your heart and say you did nothing wrong?? At tne end of the day, you can always choose the consequences. Touchwood, but when something goes wrong, do you want your husband to say, "Sorry, its my fault and I have fallen for other woman", or do you want him to shout at you, "You are a **** lousy wife! XXX is much better than you - let's divorce!" I always believe that whatever fated to happen, will happen. But the difference is how you come out of it when it happens, as a winner or as a loser. Of course the best is nothing happens lah, but think again: If really nothing happens and you treat your husband like that, would you feel good??

In this case both sides have to give in lor. Try to talk/hint to your hubby that you can be bored at home and hope he can allow you to have a life too. But of course on your part, cannot every outing also clubbing lor; maybe once every two weeks should be ok. I am sure you also have friends organising dinner and drink kopi, right? If not, then you organise yourself! That's what my wife did lor, and I appreciate it. She managed to find a life of her own, and when I not comfortable that she go clubbing so frequently, she changed and start to organise evening tea sessions and dinners with her friends instead.

U must be working at industrial estate or business park, right? Actually the transport bus is a good 'excuse' lor, boss cannot ask u to stay back, especially if its a big firm. I am working in a small firm in town area, very convenient, so it becomes a disadvantage. After running sales outside must go back to 'show face' then can go home, sometimes stay back until past midnight one lor...