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again, this is myth loh... dep on whether the person is pantang anot for my parents, they say 1 mth before or after cannot attend weddings, full mths etc

i oso say this to my hubby everytime

same here! i view it as a start of sharing responsibilities tog coz if i'm not willing to even share this financial burden with him, the further down the road there'll b more heavier burden... and this is wat marriage is all abt

$2888 is enuff already it's the sincerity that counts dun tink ur mum will view the ping jin as the price for "selling" her daughter

i echo Air's thots prob those interested can start a thread - SHOW what DIAMONDS u have or probably "How to be good hubby" lesson by Mr Phantom then i better siamz coz i old auntie liaoz

xinyi u know why? coz theirs over liaoz so no need to scare other ppl will tekan them!! plus they got the experience mah... and will be more bold to tekan ppl!

hmm... a room in mechant court or pan pac is not bad... cheesecake, no need to think... PJ seems like a good choice

ya loh... i oso d.amn angry.. but wat can i do... coz both are my frens and it's actually not their fault. i've been recept once and never had this kind of treatment... so now i just be more cautious loh... er... before we ROM my MIL asked my family out for a CNY dinner. like 1st time family meet family like that... very scary now is already 2007. where the ping jin comes from doesnt matter. just yi shi yi shi only mah keke... if i stick to traditional then my sis cant attend my wedding liaoz... tink she will be upset loh... coz i'm her only younger sis ya... she's very auto... only ting is that i din get to keep the corsage for myself my dat fren even more pantang. i cant even pass my wedding dinner photos to my other frens during her wedding dinner! thot can save some stamps... haiz... so frens show their true colours during such impt occasion hubby's frens are different. all volunteered to help out! got 1 even volunteered to be xiong di coz he always MIA so we din count him in but somehow he popped out suddenly from somewhere and said wanna be his xiong di

since soo many ppl say food not bad then shd be quite safe Oh... i heard of novotel when i signed up for the hotel membership so now i usually stay in Novotel when i go for trips

er... that time my sis 2 mths+ preggie liao she still be my jie mei actually i only wanted her to help out abit coz i already have 4 jie meis so i ordered 5 corsages, 1 that i would like to keep for myself but on AD, she took and put it ard her wrist so she become my jie mei oso

peony jade is not bad i heard. my cousin had his there but too bad he informed me too late and i had booked my trip so didnt attend his wedding dinner... yup... tink this yr and next yr Novotel is really popular. so far heard around 3 or 4 couples having their big day there!

yup definitely. i mean i treat her as 1 of my good frens that's why asked her to be my jie mei and she gave soo many excuses. in fact during her wedding (hers is after mine) her hubby wanted me to be the receptionist. i told him many times i dun want to but he insisted. coz i'm still sore at the fact that his wife played me out so in the end bo bian loh. coz he is my good fren oso mah. but i d.amn suay... during the recept, 1 of his relatives sort of like hinted to his niece and nephew (pri sch kids) to keep an eye on the ang bao box (coz the box is beside me) and while the relative was saying that, she was eyeing on me. i felt d.amn insulted!!! my dad asked me why i never just walk away (i told my dad when i reached home and given my temper, i might have done that ) but i din wanna make tings difficult for my frens on their big day... so i ren loh... will never forget that... i din tell him even till now... haizz... but the other who declined from the start i'm still fine with her. coz i actually sort of expected that reply knowing her character er... i asked 1 of my colleagues to be my jie mei although she is married. my mum is ok with that. she said as long as dun look old can liaoz i guess it deps on the person whether she's superstitious anot... as to the number of times, i thot is 3 times? but my good best fren still helped me out although tink she had been jie mei for several times and she's not married yet. just a suggestion. u can order canadian pizza. the taste is competable with pizza hut. their chicken wings and cheese sticks is and they have quite a few other side orders. and best of all, it's not expensive. i had thot of sakae sushi but doesnt seem that practically and my parents told me dun have to order soo many... u can ask ur sis or any family member to help arrange that. my sis helped me with that and i just pass the money to her i tink mine is rather traditional... we had a lunch tog, my inlaws and my parents as well as hubby and i. and there, my parents "talk" terms with my inlaws loh... my parents did not pocket the whole ang bao... they just keep a nice number and returned the rest. coz mum said she only accepted very small sum for my sis (coz BIL just started working) so she wont take too much from my inlaws. !! in fact my MIL and hubby had asked me how much my mum wants before the lunch but i just told them i dunno !!

wah.... kekeke... hopefully they will spread out their wedding dates else will be quite siong my hubby's frens gave a quite a lot to us too and most are already married. though we din give that same amt to them... soo paiseh... 1 of his fren even gave us $500 (for 2 pax) but well... he's a dentist mah

wat abt getting other gals to be ur jiemeis? i can understand u... coz i oso kena tekan by my fren... asked 2 gals to be my jiemeis. 1 said she doesnt like to. it's ok. coz she told me upfront. the other kept finding excuses... saying she's afraid of my dog (a small maltese) and even though i said i will play pen my dog, she tried to find other excuses... then she volunteered her hubby and herself as my emcee. last min told me the hubby dun wan. i know the hubby too and i know he doesnt like to be emcee. but she kept assuring me he will be ok. ended up last min i have to go find emcee. hubby oso gave my mum pin jin. but the pin jin $ comes from my MIL PIL gave us 10 tables too. but coz my parents never invite their relatives so ended up most of the tables i took. else our ballroom sure not big enuff to hold. *hengz* anyway, in the end, we returned the $ for the 10 tables back to PIL. we oso got note down the amt of ang baos during dinner and tea ceremony. coz parents wanna know oso mah... i realised my frens bao the same amt back to me too tea ceremony is tea ceremony. dinner shd be separate loh. but there will be some ppl who gave a big amt for tea ceremony and they included for the dinner as well. so there's no hard and fix rule for that actually cheesecake, if ur side not many relatives present, then u ask ur jie mei to follow u to hubby's side for tea ceremony and lunch. u can order some light snacks over at ur side. no need for buffet. it depends on how many ppl will be present there. coz for me, my parents did not ask relatives over. so there only got less than 10 persons. wat we did was the jie meis and xiong dis all follow to hubby's side and have lunch there (hubby ordered buffet coz MIL invited her frens and neighbours, those not going for the dinner). at my side, i ordered pizzas and side orders for my parents and my sis's BIL+wife+auntie. the jie meis and xiong dis went over to my side and had some of the finger food too... dun fret too much. things will work out eventually!

really? which yr u from? i tink shd be my junior lah

nope... friends and colleagues no need. and for jie meis, just verbal reminder will do guess my colleague's FIL wanted the more "formal" way that's why he went to print out the invites for his relatives

diva, my colleague oso did it on 2 days. i tink the tea ceremony is more impt and has to be on an auspicious date coz that day is the day u considered to be married mah. plus my colleague did her ROM on that tea ceremony day too what she did was to print a separate invites for relatives and frens that need to attend the tea ceremony. for the dinner day, a normal invite with that date will do.

OT: cornetto, just saw ur ROM pics lovely bride

can i give my input too? :jawdrop: hmm... actually i dun mind whether it's a weekday or weekend weddings. coz normally only ppl whom i considered as friends then i'll attend not that i want to save on my ang baos... just that i dun like to go attend for the sake of attending. i want to attend coz i'm sincerely happy for them. so far i've 2 friends and my BIL's bro who had their wedding dinners on weekdays. 2 friends held theirs in Marriot and Sheraton. BIL's bro in furama riverfront. i've no problems with going to dinners on weekdays. coz i can just get off work at around 6pm+, go for light snacks and turn up punctually. A coordinator once told me that weekday dinners tend to start on time and ended earlier coz ppl will go directly from work. cheesecake, quite sad to hear that ur friends commented like this... prob they havent gone thru the phase that's why they dunno how frustrating it is. even if cost is the main factor, i still think that they should put themselves in ur shoes prob u can get other friends to be ur jie meis? as for alcohol consumption, i dun tink weekdays ppl will consume less alcohol. i had my dinner on a saturday and the red wine consumption is far below our expectations! i guess our friends din wanna drink too much coz they wanna help us save cost. nevertheless, tink hubby gave some of the bottles to his good friends after the dinner actually i dun really like saturdays or sundays dinner... coz i gotta restrict myself from going out coz lazy to go out then go home and makeup etc etc... but as i said, seldom have this prob oso coz normally the dinners i attended are my close frens or colleagues in fact we had considered putting the day on a weekday as well. but my MIL wanted it to be a saturday so no choice... so it happens that that saturday is our anniversary so just as well my ROM is on a weekday coz we din want to select another venue as ROM is not open on weekends. hubby's godfather did commented why we wanna put it on a saturday (speaking in an interrogative tone to me!) but his daughters simply "told" him off by saying it's our wedding why shd he interfere! close friends and relatives will not mind taking a day off to help u out cheesecake, just go ahead with what u want! i mean, is ur wedding... so u shd be calling the shots!!

red roses in wedding dinner adds in the elegant factor i feel my dinner has a mixture of red and champagne (i tink is champagne) roses coz dun wan too red

actually i din notice the tables ang gong gong until u all say so leh coz i focus more on the decor

wow! looks really grand! too bad i cant really rem the decor at my fren's wedding... but yes i rem it is pillarless and BIG!! hope to see more photos of urs, diva!!

glad that u've made ur choice!i've attended wedding dinner there before the ballroom is really not bad

ya... i feel soo dumb toking to u

i will not classify this under "research" category what i meant is, not worth my efforts